tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post5238064227484147379..comments2023-04-01T20:04:02.665-07:00Comments on honestly: sinking heart.skylanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07588940455383678405noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-5982017912484531922008-12-01T09:45:00.000-08:002008-12-01T09:45:00.000-08:00I had my kids in a hospital too...I chose to have ...I had my kids in a hospital too...I chose to have them without epi's because I wanted to. I do feel a stronger sense of strength towards those who have done it naturally, but that doesn't mean I think epi's are weak, I just got really lucky. With my son I almost caved at the last minute but my mom was my strength and pushed me through since she knew I wanted to try it naturally. Then when I had my twins 6 months ago I actually had a natural epi...seriously I barely felt any pressure for the contractions...and I was told at my dr appt I was 6cm already...I made it to 9cm without much of any pain...then when it came time to push all the pressure and pain came but it was only for 16min...8min a baby...so for that birth I thank my body : ) <BR/>I think whatever way you do it...you are a stud to have carried a baby and brought it into this world! In the end it is ultimately up to you how you do it!Mommy to 4_littleindianshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14097772502263859838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-26055788111340608232008-11-26T20:00:00.000-08:002008-11-26T20:00:00.000-08:00amanda- woo hoo! yea fly me out! i'd be all about ...amanda- woo hoo! yea fly me out! i'd be all about that ;)skylanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07588940455383678405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-73149990272507574302008-11-26T10:59:00.000-08:002008-11-26T10:59:00.000-08:00Midwives are not allowed in missouri. I would have...Midwives are not allowed in missouri. I would have loved to have had some encouragement while I was in labor. When you are in labor you seem to forget what you really wanted. It would have been nice to have some people cheering for me. Telling me that I could do it. I had to have pitocin and I did give in and get the IV drug and the nurse was trying to pressure me into getting the epidural. I kept saying NO I don't want it. I didn't end up getting it because things happen quickly. My husband is a good coach but he hated seeing me in pain. I think that next time(if there is a next time) I will fly you out and you can be my encourger(is that a word?) .Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01825298641645007671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-54703817283842180962008-11-26T09:53:00.000-08:002008-11-26T09:53:00.000-08:00kimberlea- yes you can. erin did. and a lot of oth...kimberlea- yes you can. erin did. and a lot of other women i know have. but if you want to have a natural childbirth you have to KNOW what you want, why you want it and you HAVE to have people who will support you and when you want to get drugs, because you will want to... we all do at one point, will remind you of all the reasons why you dont and help you push through it. there is a chance that it could happen so fast you'll get a natural birth without even trying, but its smart to have the info and the support you need in case its not. i decided to have them at home because i started to see what a challenge it was going to be for me to have a natural birth at the hospital, just statistically etc, and while i knew that if i fought for it i could have it, i didn't want it to be a struggle. i wanted to know that all who were around me wanted the same thing i did, so i could birth in complete peace, with no pressure to do anything i didn't want to (which with ara was a really good decision because with the kind of birth i had with her at the hospital they surely would have wanted to give me pitocin and after that i'd most likely want an epidural). plus after going to visit my friend at her home right after she had her baby i saw how peaceful it was there and i thought 'wow, it must be so nice that she just gets to be in her own bed right now without any other patients in her room' that part was just my preference, i'm not a big fan of the hospital. i believe that for a normal low risk pregnancy a home birth is safer based on all research i've done, so that was the main reason i chose it. people often think that if something goes wrong its bad to not be at the hospital, but if you talk to good midwives you'll understand the process and why it all makes sense ;) i hope you do look more and more into all of this cause its really interesting and someday you'll be able to make an educated decision on the birth you want!skylanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07588940455383678405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-15800769803780993972008-11-25T20:30:00.000-08:002008-11-25T20:30:00.000-08:00I don't normally get in on these conversations, bu...I don't normally get in on these conversations, but I feel like I had to. I love my son. I wouldn't change a thing about my labor. I was totally present and was able to enjoy the process. I was amazed at what my body could do.<BR/><BR/>And I had an epidural. Don't think that makes me crazy or like I didn't accomplish anything. That doesn't make me weak. I still pushed a baby out of me. I was still pregnant for 9 months, sick for most of it. My son is healthy, happy and in love with his mommy. I do get kinda tired of people thinking that epidurals are the easy way out. We still have to carry the baby and bring it into the world. There is nothing easy about that.<BR/><BR/>Ok. I am done.Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10497060880994230566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-79026260804212422022008-11-25T20:28:00.000-08:002008-11-25T20:28:00.000-08:00I just wanted to say that I was watching "A Baby S...I just wanted to say that I was watching "A Baby Story" recently and the woman had had an epidural. And when she was 10 cm the doctor came in and said, "Alright, you're ready to push. Let's do this in a calm and collected manner... no screaming or anything, ok?" UMMM... crazy!!! If the Dr. had said that to me while I was pushing Faye out I would have kicked him in the face. I watch these shows and understand why you feel the way you do. And I agree with what you said in the your last paragraph. I'm glad I had people I loved there to help me through. Childbirth is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, and I know I needed the love and support of all of them to get me through. And natural childbirth is possible and I believe women are totally capable. I'm all about it now. Boo-yah.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10289687660575470146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-50120845240762325452008-11-25T19:13:00.000-08:002008-11-25T19:13:00.000-08:00can you give birth in a hospital without it feelin...can you give birth in a hospital without it feeling like a big medical procedure? i'm not pregnant, or married or anywhere close to starting a family. but reading your blog has made me think i could give birth naturally when the time comes <BR/>(an idea i never even considered). my mom had my siblings and i naturally but not on purpose...she wanted an epidural but things went too fast for that. i like the idea of a midwife, it just seems like a much more personal experience. i know and understand why you gave birth to your girls naturally but what made you decide to have them at home? just curious and trying to think through all of this.kimberlea fayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14358816310529858916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-24654091920767908482008-11-25T17:10:00.000-08:002008-11-25T17:10:00.000-08:00That is the saddest thing I've ever heard! Good j...That is the saddest thing I've ever heard! Good job, Skylana, for being strong and having those babies the way God made us to!!!<BR/>By the way, I ran into your hubby at Starbucks the other day...so cool to see your family bouncing around Atascadero!Andrea Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16972507647875377499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-67926824351031320162008-11-25T16:26:00.000-08:002008-11-25T16:26:00.000-08:00i totally agree...i mean, don't get me wrong, ...i totally agree...i mean, don't get me wrong, after giving birth to my 2 girls naturally, i'm not gonna say that i wasn't wanting to change my mind at the very end...but, by that time the "worst" of it was almost over. i'm so glad that i experienced every second of it & i can't imagine going through labor/childbirth without even attempting to do it naturally (i think i feel closer to my kids because of the whole experience). it is very sad that no one told her she could do it.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17074317889055938497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-79862625189665715172008-11-25T15:22:00.000-08:002008-11-25T15:22:00.000-08:00A-MENA-MENIndianaJoneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02197596501737545856noreply@blogger.com