tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post550478508716818153..comments2023-04-01T20:04:02.665-07:00Comments on honestly: unaffected.skylanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07588940455383678405noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-56515697654540679832009-02-12T16:50:00.000-08:002009-02-12T16:50:00.000-08:00this is a lot to digest, but I just wanted to say ...this is a lot to digest, but I just wanted to say hey and let you know this is crazy tough and in the end this is a really healthy thing.meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07237269256782422540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-80354006735875601402009-02-11T23:00:00.000-08:002009-02-11T23:00:00.000-08:00i first wrote to you when i saw your icon on lakes...i first wrote to you when i saw your icon on lakes myspace of your wedding picture. i told you how i was planning my wedding and loved your pictures.<BR/>the guy that was all for was lokahi. when you write about what you're going through with stuff with luke, it sounds so much like me and lokahi.<BR/>tonight i was driving.<BR/>i realized how desperately i still need to forgive him.<BR/>i still don't know how.<BR/>and i'm still single.<BR/>i'm afraid i'll be a cynic all my life...me and love/romance are like the wrong sides of magnets trying to go together...'polor opposites' or whatever it is.<BR/><BR/>anyway. just saying i can kind of relate even though that doesn't help the healing process really and also it kind of helps me, seeing what you've written, to process my own mess.stinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09820448811857709898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-37038833735911813802009-02-11T19:28:00.000-08:002009-02-11T19:28:00.000-08:00i can relate...you should check out a friend of mi...i can relate...<BR/>you should check out a friend of mines blog, she's a great writer and she did a post last year on forgiveness (forgiving her ex-husband/his mistress). it's deep.<BR/>i hope this link works:<BR/>http://toooooomanyboyz.wordpress.com/2007/11/29/an-unexpected-friendship/<BR/>...if it doesn't work just go to her blog (http://toooooomanyboyz.wordpress.com) & you can either search "forgiveness" or just go back to nov. 29th 2007 & dec. 1st 2007.<BR/>enjoy. ~sShanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17074317889055938497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-79035763103723555362009-02-10T21:48:00.000-08:002009-02-10T21:48:00.000-08:00Thank you for posting this part of your story. I i...Thank you for posting this part of your story. I identify with a lot of what you've said. When I was 19 I fell in love with a man who said he loved me but constantly failed me. After a year, I walked away. I still don't know why I needed him but something in me needed love so badly I was willing to ignore obvious signs of trouble. I didn't care that he couldn't love me fully...I didn't care that he loved drugs and alcohol more. The first four months after I left him were some of the darkest days of my life. I layed on the couch all the time, had to force myself to go to class and only ate bean burritos (sick!). After counseling, a lot of prayer, amazing friends, and a shit ton of journaling I found myself again. I've forgiven him. But there are still times that I hate that he will forever be a part of who I am, a part of my story. I hate that I allowed myself to be isolated and fully consumed by him. <BR/><BR/>It's ugly and messy but I've come to embrace it as part of my story; part of who I am. I don't know what forgiveness will look like in your life but know that it's possible. Know that you aren't alone. It is absolutely possible to regain every part of yourself.kimberlea fayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14358816310529858916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871684353217068827.post-21542457155653248212009-02-10T20:57:00.000-08:002009-02-10T20:57:00.000-08:00so good.so good.Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10497060880994230566noreply@blogger.com