Tuesday, December 8, 2009

you've been replaced

hey real people, you've been replaced.

since i moved i still have not made ONE friend. (besides sarah, but come on, we were always friends deep inside our heart of hearts) anyway, there's really nowhere for me to make friends here, i'm in this awkward middle stage and i'm not fake.

at arabellas school there are a couple moms i like but its just really hard to get together with all the things moms down here do with their kids. i mean people are wild here. its non stop. the other moms are all too old for me, or too fake for me. i love her teachers but we're not allowed to hang out together. i dont go to church and also would probably shoot myself if i made ONE more christian friend. the young people around here just have completely different lives than me, ones i'm not interested in. i feel like my options are old fake people who love money and talk about decorating their large houses while driving extra super large blinged out suv's, or young fake scenesual people who are trying to "make it" either in fashion, or movies, oh and also they get drunk a lot.

there are like no real hippies here.

i like our upstairs neighbors but its taken the four of us about a month to get together. we're scheduled for later this month. i'm also thankful to have my old friend ryan back in my life, that is beyond great.....

but none of this actually makes a super huge difference as far as who i hang out with...

because i STILL HANG OUT WITH NO ONE. i mean NO ONE.

well i mean ryan came over like... a few days ago... and i hung out with sarah... but i dont remember how long ago that was.... its not good people.

part of this is because there is a very limited options, and part of it is because of DAMNED facebook. i get so used to having this sort of real interaction with my real friends who live far away i start to feel ok with the fact that i never hang out with anyone.

but in reality, i'm not ok with it.

i want to hang out with people. i want to have friends over. i miss sitting and talking with one of my dearest girl friends over coffee. or having couple friends over... like the lundeens!!!!!

i dont know where i'm supposed to meet people in this town. i feel like everyone i knew up north was already in place because of seth, and everyone else i met was from church.

and although i love some of those people... i can't handle having only friends who have known my husband his whole life anymore, i want friends who meet us as a couple, as we are. and lord knows i can't handle having only christian friends anymore. i like the ones i have but... i've hit my limit.

i wish there was like a fellowship for gay/lesbian, liberal, part hippie, young parents.

gosh. that would be my heaven.

i should put up a craigslist ad.

Seeking fellowship for gay/lesbian, liberal, part hippie, young parents - 24/f (Agoura hills)


Date: 2009-12-08, 9:15PM PST


I’m a crazy indian girly girl who loves to live life and have fun!!! I am looking for someone that is drama free who wants to be friends and is also into the same sex, lives life on the far left, loves to recycle and has little ones. If this is you email me...

PS. NO CONSERVATIVES, CHRISTIANS, FLAKES, OR SPAM...



perfect.




sometimes i want to delete my facebook and make myself find real friends, but then i'd have to actually find new friends.

i know though, whenever i feel this way, whenever i feel like i need some friends... somehow... they come to me.

12 comments:

Flo Paris Oakes said...

I never say stuff like this because i don't want to uh, persuade you and then have you hate it here, but seriously...your craigslist ad describes half of east nashville.
There's a huge LGBT community here (because they nearly single handedly transformed and renovated East Nashville from the slums to beautifully restored historic houses) and most have little kids.
Plus everyone's super into farmer's market, or growing their own food, or buying locally.
It's like a mix of that crowd, hipsters, and super poor people, both black and white. Very interesting.

skylana said...

hey, i already said i'd come. its up to seth to find a job that pays the same...

meg said...

whoa Flo watch out, she just described Eugene to a T.
You could find people like this every where here. The coffee shop we walk to from our house is owned by a lesbian couple and don't even get me started on all the organic, granola families around here.

also. I really want you to post the responses you get from this ad. And I want to have a poll going as to how many of the responses think you want to have a sexual relationship.

Mrs. Warren said...

yeah -- portland oregon would be right up your alley, as long as you can handle cold weather. it was 12 degrees at my house last night. craze.

skylana said...

yea the cold has always been a big problem for me. i'd like to say i could just deal with it in exchange but honestly i dont know if i could. i get stressed out when its cold for like 3 weeks in the winter... and that's california cold... i start to feel desperate for the summer and the beach. even now i need to stop talking about it cause its cold outside and my heart is starting to long for the beach in summertime.

stina said...

i'm basically in the same boat as you. grr!
and i live in norcal and also have been wanting to move to oregon or even considered for a split second to move back to minnesota where i grew up...
but the cold.
the cold makes me want to live on a tropical island and never go anywhere cold ever again.

stina said...

oh-and i have a friend who moved to alaska for fun, and she found her best friend and now flat mate my posting a friend ad on craigslist!

skylana said...

Meg... I'm not actually posting that.... It was a joke!!!! I'm not totally desperate :(

meg said...

damn. I was looking forward to hearing updates on the ad :(

A.M.H. said...

It's too bad you don't want any more Christian friends b/c I don't live too far away (Ventura), I have a young son, I grow my own vegetables, shop at thrift stores, have gay friends, and my husband works at Patagonia (so we're a bit more yuppie than hippie, but it's a start).

A.M.H. said...

Oh, and I found your blog through the Avila's, but I remember you from SLO. I used to work at the downtown Starbucks and I remember you coming in all the time. You always wore dresses over pants. I'm not sure why I remember that, but I do.

skylana said...

amh- hahaha ohhhhh the dresses and pants. the good old days. now i wonder who you are because i probably remember you too. you sound like a pretty awesome person. i'd be down to know you... the only reason i say i'm not interested in more christian friends is because that's pretty much all i've had for 8 years. its nothing against that at all, just want something new you know? and i want that bond, that specific bond of not believing in jesus with other people, i have that with my one friend here and its nice. you know if you ONLY had friends who DIDN'T believe in him, at some point you'd just really want someone who did... anyway... you should find me on facebook so i know who you are...